Sunday, June 5, 2011
The butterfly
A man was out one day taking his daily walk when he came upon the a
cocoon of a butterfly. Over the following days the man watched the
cocoon and then one day a small opening appeared in it. He sat and
watched and as he did a butterfly a began to force its body through
the small opening in the cocoon. The butterfly struggled and it's
struggle went on for quite sometime. After awhile the butterfly seemed
to stop making progress. It appeared that the butterfly had gotten as
far as it could and unable to go on. This troubled the watching man
and so he decided to help the butterfly in it's struggle to be free of
the cocoon.. He took out his penknife and with the inbuilt snippers
carefully cut away the remaining shell of the cocoon.
Free now of the remaining cocoon the butterfly emerged easily, but it
had a swollen body and small shriveled wings. The man remained
watching the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the
insect's wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the
body, which would contract in time.
Unfortunately neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest
of its like crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.
It was never to fly in all it's lifetime.
The road to ruin can often be paved with the best of intentions.
Though the man had acted in the best of intentions, in his kindness
and haste in removing the remaining piece of the cocoon, he had
deprived the butterfly the necessary struggle required for the
butterfly to get through the tiny opening, this is nature's way of
forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it
would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the
cocoon.
Often in marriage couples do the same old thing over and over again
(and of course with the best of intentions) but end up with the same
old same old. They get caught up in the tyrannies of the "should
work's".. the oughta work's,...the "That’s the way it was in my
family's... the result you get from your actions should be your
guide.. results tell you what works and what doesn’t. If you are doing
the same old thing over and over again and still getting the same old
result then it is time to do something different. Doing the same old
thing day in day out will not Save your Marriage but eventually
destroy it.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If we
weren't tested, faced obstacles and called upon throughout our lives
we may never grow to our full potential. We may never fly.
A man was out one day taking his daily walk when he came upon the a cocoon of a butterfly. Over the following days the man watched the
cocoon and then one day a small opening appeared in it. He sat and
watched and as he did a butterfly a began to force its body through
the small opening in the cocoon. The butterfly struggled and it's
struggle went on for quite sometime. After awhile the butterfly seemed
to stop making progress. It appeared that the butterfly had gotten as
far as it could and unable to go on. This troubled the watching man
and so he decided to help the butterfly in it's struggle to be free of
the cocoon.. He took out his penknife and with the inbuilt snippers
carefully cut away the remaining shell of the cocoon.
Free now of the remaining cocoon the butterfly emerged easily, but it
had a swollen body and small shriveled wings. The man remained
watching the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the
insect's wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the
body, which would contract in time.
Unfortunately neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest
of its like crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings.
It was never to fly in all it's lifetime.
The road to ruin can often be paved with the best of intentions.
Though the man had acted in the best of intentions, in his kindness
and haste in removing the remaining piece of the cocoon, he had
deprived the butterfly the necessary struggle required for the
butterfly to get through the tiny opening, this is nature's way of
forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it
would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the
cocoon.
Often in marriage couples do the same old thing over and over again
(and of course with the best of intentions) but end up with the same
old same old. They get caught up in the tyrannies of the "should
work's".. the oughta work's,...the "That’s the way it was in my
family's... the result you get from your actions should be your
guide.. results tell you what works and what doesn’t. If you are doing
the same old thing over and over again and still getting the same old
result then it is time to do something different. Doing the same old
thing day in day out will not Save your Marriage but eventually
destroy it.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If we
weren't tested, faced obstacles and called upon throughout our lives
we may never grow to our full potential. We may never fly.
